The Principles of Mentoring Part 2
Last time, we discussed one of three principles that Christ gave us about the mentoring relationship – Observing. Let’s look at the second principle to understand how to choose a mentor according to the example laid by Jesus the Christ.
Our key text is taken from the scripture according to John 5:19-20
“For whatever things He does, these also the Son does likewise.”
There’s a phrase our Pastor used to explain the notion Christ talks about in the verse above:
“Monkey see, monkey do.”
Too many times, God gives us an instruction, command or direction and we think that we know better. We believe that with our vast experiences and understanding of the “current” times, a little something to add our own flavour to a Holy directive will be ok with God because “He understands”. Fortunately, He does (He’s cool like that) BUT that doesn’t make it any less disobedient. It doesn’t make it any less rebellious (remember what Samuel said to Saul in 1Samuel 15:23 – read the King James Version?)
Jesus ONLY behaved in the way He saw The Father behaving. NOTHING outside of that. Not on iota different. He was a copycat! His action were perfectly synced and if He did not see The Father do it, it wasn’t in His behavioural pattern. If He did not hear The Father say it, it wasn’t in His vocabulary. That’s the type of Christians we are called to be – EXACT copies of Christ.
When Christ said in John 15:9-10:
“As the Father has loved Me, so I have loved you; continue in My love. 10 If you keep My commandments, you shall abide in My love, even as I have kept My Father‘s commandments and abide in His love.”, these are all acts. He will love us the same way God showed Him how to love. If we in turn, ACT like He did to the Father, keeping all His commandments, He will show us the same love – the love that will cause us to abide in His love. Christ laid the example when he said:
“For I have not spoken of Myself, but the Father who sent Me gave Me a command, what I should say, and what I should speak.
50 And I know that His command is life everlasting. Therefore whatever I speak, even as the Father said to Me, so I speak.”
– John 12:49-50
Mentoring is a transferal of spirit. A pouring out of who you are into another to make them in your own likeness. This is why it hurts so much when it goes wrong and this is why it is such a joy when executed in perfection. Mentoring is the reason God chose Joshua. God observed Joshua to notice that He had successfully received Moses’ spirit (and we know how God felt about Moses):
“And the LORD said to Moses, Take Joshua the son of Nun, a man in whom is the Spirit, and lay your hand upon him.”
– Numbers 27:18
“And Joshua the son of Nun was full of the spirit of wisdom, for Moses had laid his hands on him. And the sons of Israel listened to him, and did as the LORD commanded Moses.”
– Deuteronomy 34:9
In laying hands on Joshua, Moses sealed the mentoring relationship and The Spirit within Joshua. He (Joshua) was able to command the sons of Israel, not out of talent or skill and but rather because he was a replica of Moses – an exact copy.
When you’re under mentorship, you must learn to just follow the acts of your mentor:
Our key scripture is the template for mentoring. This is the method it should always take. Jesus, the mentored, observes The Father, the mentor. In seeing His behaviour, He copies it. In copying The Father, He (The Father) will then show you how to do all the things He does. The difference between the things we SEE The Father do and the things The Father SHOWS us is that we are in a deeper level of intimacy. It’s an apprenticeship of sorts.
This is the key difference between a mentor and a coach. A coach will tell you what to do but a mentor will let you OBSERVE them doing it and then SHOW you. Your mentor should ALWAYS have a vested interest in your attitude and your heart. They must be open enough to you to let you into their world and their heart and you must be obedient enough to do as you’re told without complaining or deviating.
This is perhaps our biggest problem. We often are good at following instructions… partially. When The Lord tells us to be anxious for nothing, we wait till the 11th hour then activate our backup plans that we told Him we never had yet even in the face of His impeding death, Christ was not worried. He had a heart full of sorrow and heaviness but worried? – No, definitely not!
“And He went a little further and fell on His face, and prayed, saying, O My Father, if it is possible, let this cup pass from Me. Yet not as I will, but as You will… 42 He went away again the second time and prayed, saying, My Father, if this cup may not pass away from Me unless I drink it, Your will be done.”
– Matthew 26:39;42
Who do you follow? Who are you modelled after? Who are you observing? Who is pouring themselves into you? Who is replicating themselves in you? Whose acts are you living out?
Read the conclusion of the principles of mentoring, according to The Bible, in part 3…