Mental Reflections – Where the old meets the new…
My first blog of 2011.
I apologise that it took this long to craft something worthwhile but here we are…
Over the past few weeks I have had a series of epiphanies and it’s only right to thank God for the clarity of mind to arrive at these conclusions.
In one of the many reflective moments that I have been privy to as of late, I remember a conversation that I had a few days earlier regarding joint accounts (in the context of an established relationship).
When I considered my nonchalant response (and agreement) to the surety of getting a joint account with your spouse, I realised a few things… My mindset on this topic when I last approached it (as recently as 2/3 years ago) and my current stance, as of the past week, were at odds.
Basically, a couple of years ago, I laughed at, rejected and outright scorned the idea of getting a joint account. After all, it’s important to maintain a level of financial security and make sure you can properly account for your expenses accurately. How can one be expected to do that when two parties, sharing an account that another has access to pool together their resources to create a sole source of income? Will they/you have to request permission every time one of you wishes to make a purchase? Surely that is a recipe toward disaster in a relationship (I’m a firm believer that money – or a lack of financial trust – is one of the key reasons that relationships crack then eventually break down).
Well, as you may have guessed, that is no longer an opinion I hold. So… How did I come to arrive at this new conclusion and what does it say about me 2-3 years ago?
I’M A HYPOCRITE!
Now I know it sounds overly dramatic but let’s consider it a moment. The term hypocrite has its origins in the Greek language from the word hypocrita – ‘one who pretends to be what he is not’ (thank you @TripleOmusic). In my defense, I would argue that I was not intentionally a hypocrite. I did not set out or intend to pretend to be that which I am not.
However, it does not change the fact that, in retrospect, such is the case. While this would usually be a cause for dismay, when it occurred to me, it got me thinking and I realised that the epiphany and my current opinion (in this particular matter and many others) where in actual fact, signs of GROWTH.
I would go as far as to say that it shows signs of maturity. To be mature is not, in my opinion, to be able to exercise a greater control over oneself or to leave childish things behind but rather to be able to come to accept that at one point I held a viewpoint and now that I no longer maintain that point of view (be it due to age, experience or a specific change in circumstance) I was wrong in the view I previously held.
To be able to realise that my ideas and thoughts now, compared to what I professed sometime back, are hypocritical and then EMBRACE that change and understand that it is for my betterment and is in fact progressive; that is maturity. To maybe even go as far as to come to the realisation as to say to yourself “I am a hypocrite” and be ok with that realisation. That is maturity.
Perhaps hypocrite is not the right word – I realise it may unsettle some but in the wider context of things, most Christians are no longer something they once were. Some, to a very extreme extent. That is for their betterment but it doesn’t make it any less hypocritical no?
God bless you